“You are more special to me today than yesterday. You will be more cherished tomorrow. Please wear this ring and see it as a symbol of my love for you. Love that transcends all of our yesterdays, all of our today, and all of our tomorrow.” These vows are quite poetic. Probably because a Bachelor writer actually wrote them for Jade and Tanner a few years ago, but my dear friend Maggie jacked them for her wedding. In fact after she and Jack exchanged their vows, she turned to the audience to let us in on the secret to which Jack replied, “I thought you wrote them?!”
This anecdote hopefully gives you a glimpse at the corky, beautiful couple of Maggie + Jack. I knew the moment I walked into their wedding that It would be one of the most memorable events, not because of extravagance or the traditional details. It was memorable because it was perfectly Maggie and Jack.
I’ve noticed in the past few years that people worry a lot about the details rather than guest experience or the overall “wedding vibes.” The latter two can be accomplished by putting together a wedding that’s true to the couple’s personalities. Maggie and Jack opted for less tradition and focused on what was important to them. Before the wedding they made a list of non-negotiables which included a badass band, a quick and personal ceremony, and an open bar with of course margaritas.
I wanted to interview Maggie so I could share more about this rad wedding and the chillest couple. I hope this interview gives you some ideas on how to make your day perfectly you.
What was your overall theme?
We didn't have a designated theme; we just picked things we liked and hoped it went together - tacos, margaritas, queso, temporary tats, dancing, and ice cream sandwiches instead of cake. So I guess judging by the list our theme was “Jack And Maggie's Fiesta Where They Happen To Get Married.”
Your wedding guests seemed to feel comfortable all night. Why do you think that was?
We wanted to make sure we set expectations from the moment the guests walked in. We wanted people to know that this was a party, a celebration, and to not take it too seriously. So we offered champagne as soon as they walked into the ceremony. I remember peeking out prior and instead of everyone sitting quietly in their seats, people were walking around, chatting and hugging. I think that sense of comfort lasted throughout the night.
What do you think it takes to be a laid back bride?
It takes enough planning to be able to say "fuck it!" when the time comes.
You need to be confident in the people you've chosen to pull your wedding together. Planning a wedding is the funniest thing, because you do all this planning but you aren’t even the one making it all come together the day of. My biggest advice is trust the people you put in charge and have fun.
What was the most stressful part of the planning?
One thing to note is that Jack and I live in NYC but got married in Oklahoma City.
Planning a wedding from another state is basically like going on a blind date. We never heard our band play. Never tasted our food. Never saw our flowers. Had only visited the venue a couple of times. All of our decor was shipped to Oklahoma, so I either saw it in pieces or not at all. We really took a leap of faith, and luckily it all worked out.
Did Jack have an opinion on anything? If so, what?
If he wasn't already taken, I would recommend everyone plans a wedding with Jack. About a week after our engagement, I woke up one morning and Jack had created an entire budget spreadsheet. (He's in finance). He also was very excited about the band. He talked to about 15 band leaders (GASP) to narrow down the options.
Once we got to the details, I took the lead. Plus, he's color blind and that doesn't quite lend it's set to picking out table settings.
What was your favorite part of the day?
Our ceremony - we kept as much of it a surprise for each other from our vows to the readings we chose for each other.
Were there any funny moments the guests saw or didn’t see?
After our "exchange of rings" vows, I spontaneously turned to our guests and admitted I had taken the language straight from The Bachelor. Jack then responded: "I thought you wrote that!" It was more memorable that I HAD copied it word for word from The Bachelor than it would have been if I had written it myself.
Also, in the middle of dinner, our band (which was set up outside) came and showed us a giant storm headed our way and said we would need to pivot and move everything inside. What can you do with Oklahoma weather?! I started analyzing where everyone should go, but then - A miracle happened! Before the band started moving, the storm turned to miss us. We danced all night without a drop of rain!
Is there anything you now realize wasn't worth it?
Nothing comes to mind besides the PTSD of knowing how much you over-ordered certain items (like programs, or napkins, or plates, or mixers).
Venue: Plenty Mercantile | Planner: Day-Of: Forever Cole | Engagement Photography: Ayenia Nour (NYC) | Wedding Photography: Rachel Photographs | Videography: Choate House | Catering: Picasso Cafe | Florals: New Leaf OKC | Invitations: Basic Invite | Wedding Gown: Sarah Seven | Favorite Wedding Detail: Margaritas with chili rimmed salt